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What’s going on.


Hello Everyone,

I am sure you are wondering if I gave up on my blog.  No I haven’t but outside circumstances have put a temporary halt to things.  Let’s see, as many of you know our home remodeling from hell has finally ended.  The last day of construction was in December.

Also in December I had a breast cancer scare.  I had a routine mammogram in early December.  The results came back with some specious lumps.  Since I get breast cancer from both sides of my family I pay attention to my health in this area.  So I went in for an ultrasound right before Christmas.  Once lump came back as a cyst, the other lump was undetermined.  So I would next have to go in for a die contrast MRI. The day before Christmas Eve I went in.  The results would not be back till after Christmas.

It made for a rough holiday season.  Luckily, the second spot was another cyst and I was given the all clear.  Whew!

The biggest source of stress has been my son “E”.  Normally, he is the most kind, gentle, bright, shy and happy child.  During this past summer this started to change a bit. We figured that he was going into junior high school (so getting older, teen angst) and with all the home construction stress, he was just moody.  When school started, he was under a lot of stress. Normal right?  In many ways he was also better.  He seemed to be more responsible and his ADHD was better managed.  His grades were high too.  While a lot of his friends didn’t go to that school, there were a few that did. So he wasn’t completely alone.

As the year progressed we noticed him becoming more and more anxious. He started to get ill and began to miss school.  He was getting difficult to wake up.  He was starting to cry, shake, and have meltdowns.  It was like someone flipped a switch on his personality.  He has his first panic attack in the Fall. I knew right away what it was.

I took my son into his pediatrician to get him started immediately on medication. He also started seeing his therapist more often.  I was able to get him some accommodations at school for his anxiety too. Unfortunately, he started to self harm.  As the desire for self harm began to increase we removed him from school and enrolled him in a PHP.  PHP stands for partial hospitalization program.

“E” would attend the PHP from about 9-4 Monday-Friday.  Then he would come home on nights and weekends.  At PHP he would receive therapy, medical treatment, and schooling to help him overcome his anxiety and depression. He attended for several weeks when we received a phone call from the staff psychologist saying “E” was very suicidal. The decision was made on advice of the staff to place my son in a 24 hour lock down facility for adolescents.  It was the hardest decision I’ve had to make.  I knew it needed to be done. However, now I look back and question it a bit more.

To be continued…



Updating my update…

Dear Readers,

I have not forsaken you!  Unfortunately, a family medical emergency has turned into an emergency hospitalization.  I go to the hospital everyday, which is an hour away or more from our home.  When not there I fall into bed exhausted.  I am hoping to at least do a short blog post soon.  Keep the faith.




3 Things About Me


File this under getting to know your blogger. What are three things that I can tell you about me?  Hmmm, I wish I could say I have something amazing and earth shattering, but I don’t. I’d love to be the person to tell you that I love skydiving, or every evening my family and I sing songs around a campfire while sipping gourmet hot coco and s’mores.  I don’t. Believe me, I wish I did!!

  1. My favorite childhood book was by Judy Blume called “Starring Sally J. Friedman as herself.” I must have read that book over 50 times. Once the librarian told me that I couldn’t check it out because I had to let someone else check it out. So that book sat in the library until a week past and I could check it out again.
  2. I am a cat person.  I have a dog, but I am a cat person.  I have always loved cats.  When I was a child I would walk around the fields around my house looking for stray cats, hoping one will come out and play with me.   I was finally allowed to have a cat in junior high school.  Once that cat died I didn’t have another.  Too busy. When my own son wanted to get a cat we looked at various animal shelters.  Unfortunately, I started to sneeze and get a stuffy nose. So I went and had myself tested.  Yup, allergic to cats! Noooooooooooooooo!!!!!!
  3. If I won the lottery I would do two things.  One is travel. The other is go back to school.  Okay, most people would travel.  I also love to learn.  I don’t know if I’d get a degree but I would definitely take classes in areas that interest me.

What is your favorite childhood book?  Do you have a favorite animal?  What would you do if you won the lottery?  Let me know in the comments!



5 Of My Favorite Blogs.


As a blogger I love to read blogs!  Who doesn’t right?  There was a time when bloggers could list all their favorite blogs on the side of their own blog on a blogroll.  Unfortunately,  blogging has become a highly competitive industry. Bloggers are guarding their numbers and not wanting people to click on the competition.

Frankly, it’s disappointing.  I don’t only read one magazine, or listen to one podcast.  I’m not only going to read one blog either.  So with that in mind, here are five of my favorite blogs.

  1. -A great blog for interior design fans.  The bloggers post often and have high quality photos.  Be sure to check out their weekly “Pets on Furniture” feature.
  2. -Jose keeps and manufactures copies of his impressive journal.  They are a feast for the eyes. I wish I could draw as good as he does.  I love the juxtaposition of all the information on the pages.
  3. – This blog is one of the most popular British Lifestyle Blogs out there.  Rosie goes to glamorous places and wears beautiful clothing. I’m envious!  Her photos are also fantastic.
  4. – I must admit I’m a huge fan of Scandinavian Design.  I love the basic and minimal design with cool accents.  This blog has beautiful apartments and homes that it features.
  5. – Another popular British Fashion/Lifestyle Blog.  Lydia wears beautiful clothing all over London.

Have fun checking these bloggers out!  What blogs do you like?


My October Goals.


jennifer-burk-118076I’ve always been a big goal setter.  Lately however, it has been difficult for me.  So many things have gone sideways I just feel like I cannot get anything done.  It’s frustrating. So now I will try again.   Here are what I am planning on doing for October.

  1. Clean out the freezer.
  2. Photocopy cookbooks.
  3. Read 2 books.
  4. Exercise/Walk dog
  5. Drink more water.

Should be easy right?  Honestly I’m not sure if it will be the way my summer and early Autumn have been going.  I can only try right?  I’ll let you know how everything is going in future posts.



12 Medicines to take when you travel.


Travel is one of the constants in our new modern life.  Whether it is international travel or domestic travel when you get sick you want to have over the counter medication that you are used to.  What should you take?  Here is a list of items to include in your travel medical kit.

  1. Antacid
  2. Anti-diarrhea pills
  3. Anti-gas medication
  4. Pain relief
  5. Allergy Medication
  6. Sleep Medication
  7. Motion Sickness
  8. Cold Medication
  9. Sore throat spray
  10. Decongestant
  11. Cough Drops
  12. Hydro Cortisone Cream

I really liked a Pinterest pin where they used a pill organizer to store their over the counter medication. They filled each day with a different OTC medication and cut out the label and stuck it over the day letter.  A great way to compactly carry your medicine.  Check out my Pinterest link to see more ways to carry items on your trip.

What over the counter medicines have you found that you needed while traveling?


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What is Lagom?

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I’m sure you have all heard the latest lifestyle buzz word for 2017 “Lagom.”  It is also being considered for 2018 as the word of the year too!  In fact, I am now anxiously awaiting the latest Norwegian, Finnish or Icelandic word to come into vogue.  All kidding aside why the preoccupation with the Scandinavian way of life?

Let’s face it.  The Scandinavians have it pretty good in their home countries:  low crime rate, free education, free health care, etc.  Now the Scandinavians would be the first to say they pay for it and they do.  They pay a lot.  Is there something else that we can gleam from the Scandinavian way of being that we can use in our daily lives?

While we may not be able to adopt their style of government there are a few things that we can adopt from them.  First, let’s define Lagom.  Lagom is a Swedish word meaning “just enough” or “just the right amount.”  Think “Goldy Locks and the Three Bears”, not too hot, not too cold, just right.  In Sweden it is about striking a balance in life.  All things in moderation. So say have a slice or two of pizza, but not the whole pizza.

Things are reused and repaired.  Scandinavians save up to buy quality items.  Then when those things wear out, the repair them or reuse them in a new way.  Keep the clutter to a minimum and let your personality shine instead of your things.

Scandinavians also spend a great deal of time outside. It could be eating outside, going for a walk, or riding their bike to work.  In Scandinavia, outside even in winter, is part of the weekly if not daily routine.  Make small changes to your day to enhance your life.  Take a walk around the block, put some plants in your room, or plant a garden.  All these things can add nature to your life.

How are you using Lagom in your daily life?  How could you start?