Self

Update

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It’s been awhile since I have updated everyone on my life.  Honestly, it still feels out of control.  It’s like I almost don’t have my footing.

As I wrote before, I have just gotten over a severe case of pneumonia over two months ago.  It was horrible.  I still don’t feel as if I have recovered from it.  In the past two months I have gotten a lot of stomach bugs and one regular cold.  Ah Winter, the season that keeps on giving. I just haven’t felt right since. I was pretty rundown before the pneumonia.  However,  this feels different.  I think since I am still under a lot of stress my body just can’t take it.

I have had to miss so many appointments and cancel out on people in the last few months. I really hate doing that.  Appointments are so hard to come by. I tried to avoid  same day cancellations.  I try to at least get the provider their tip so they don’t lose out on money.  Fortunately, I only had one or two that I had to do that way.

I am trying very hard to get back to feeling better.  More water, eating better and trying to get out of the house.  I have also spent more time doing self care.  Going to bed early, getting a massage and other things. I still have a long way to go.

My son is still at the same point as he was at the last update.  He can only manage about 15 minutes in one normal class.  I have no idea what to do next. His therapist and I are challenging him to do one extra minute a day. So far he hasn’t done it. If he can do one extra minute a day, he will be up to an hour at the end of the year.

In addition to his mental health therapy I have started to take him to an eating disorder clinic.  It was the same one he went through last year. So I returned with him on an outpatient basis.  He goes to a dietician at night and family therapy in the afternoon. So far I’ve gotten him to eat a banana but not much else new.  Apple no, Tater Tots no, and other things?? At least he is crazy about Ramen.  He eats about 4 bowls a day.  The only problem is he eats noodles.  What I need help with is fruits and veggies of which he eats none.  I’m not 100% certain of the diagnosis of ARFID, as an eating disorder.  The also want me to start seeing and OT again.  They are going to try and get referrals for me for my son.  Another provider to visit?  I don’t know.  He saw an OT for over a year a few years ago. It didn’t do any good.  Would a different OT do anything?

He’s seeing a tutor twice a week on the weekends.  He isn’t in math class long enough to understand the teaching.  However, everything he turns in is late because we have to wait for the tutor. I have purchased a Life Science and History textbook to help him understand what he missed in the school year this summer.

I see my son getting left behind. I don’t know what to do.  He gets upset and goes through crying spells and anger at this anxiety. I don’t know what else to do.

I have gotten to go somewhere for fun twice in the last six months.  I went to a flower show which was cute.  Then I also saw a decorator home open for charity.  I think I need to get out more!

 

Clothing

The Very Basic Wardrobe List

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There have been so many posts, blogs and tv segments on your wardrobe.  There are capsule wardrobes, French influence wardrobe, monochrome wardrobes, and daily uniforms. I have always had a basic wardrobe list.  A good place to start to build any closet.  You can turn this into a capsule wardrobe or any other type of style you want.  What would you put in your basic wardrobe?

Here is my list:

Dark Jeans :I like that they look more dressed up.

Trench Coat: Classic style and practical.

Cardigan:

Button down shirt

Leather Jacket

Car coat

Suit

Pencil Skirt

Dress

T-shirt

I usually prefer one color.  For a long time it was black, then charcoal grey.  Currently, I seem to wear a lot of navy.  I think I would prefer all charcoal.  Unfortunately, there is not a lot of the things in that shade of grey. Do you have a basic foundation color?  What is it?    Have you tried a capsule wardrobe before? Let me know how it has gone.  I’ve been giving it some serious thought since I gained some significant weight from medication.  It’s so hard to find plus sized clothes that look good and I like.  Have you had any problems with clothing yourself?

Clothing

April Fashion Terms to Know

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It’s April and time for another installment of Fashion Terms to know.  I try to give definitions to common used and unique fashion items for your enjoyment.  You may think you know the definition but sometimes you may be surprised.  Enjoy!

Loom: A machine on which cloth is woven not knitted.  Yarns are raised and lowered to produce the desired weave.

Lycra: Trademarked by the DuPont company.  A filament spandex fiber.  Fabric is not 100% Lycra, used for stretch and recovery.

Macaroni: Not the pasta!  Pronounce Mack-a-roo-knee. Used to describe a fashionable man (the term used before Metrosexual) in the time of King George the third.  Refers to members of the Macaroni club formed in England.  The style of dress came later. Trademarks include tight clothing, colorful clothing, large boutonniere, enormous buckles and decorative buttons with a tricorn hat.  Remember the nursery rhyme “Yankee Doodle Dandy?”  A dandy is also another name for a Macaroni.  So when you get to the line “stuffed a feather in his hat and called him Macaroni.”  It’s not the pasta pronunciation but the clothing one!

Macrame: Two, three, four or more strands of cord, string or yarn knotted in groups to form patterns.  Popular in 1970’s to make clothing, and other accessories.

Made-To-Measure: Dress or suit made according to an individual’s measurement often with not fittings.

Magenta: Purplish-red color, first chemical dye to be used for dress fabrics.  Named after a town in Italy where it was developed.

Moire: A fabric finish that achieves a wave-like watered effect by heated rollers. A stiff fabric made with rayon, silk, acetate.  Used in evening fabrics.

Moleskin: A cotton fabric known for being durable and suede like in touch.  Made with a satin weave.

Pompadour Bag:  A drawstring bag in a round or oval shape that was common in the 1880’s and was made of velvet, satin or another fine fabric with floral embroidery and use of gold and silver thread.

Mackintosh Raincoat: Most commonly plastic yellow, a style of waterproof coat combined with a cape worn by Fire or police.  British slang also used for all raincoats.

Slicker: Also another type of raincoat commonly in a yellow hue.  It is made of oilskin or another rubber fabric and fastened with clips in the front.  First used by sailors and today commonly used in children’s coats.

Home

Five Things To Clean

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It’s a new month and I have five more things for you to clean as part of Spring Cleaning.  Here they are:

  1. Cabinets in kitchen.  Wipe them inside and out.  This is a great opportunity to add shelf liners, rid yourself of extra plastic bins and other extras or one offs.  Be sure to wash the silverware organizer.
  2. Clean the backsplash, walls, and light fixtures in the kitchen.
  3. The floor and baseboards in the kitchen.
  4. The counters, and any additional small appliances or furniture in the kitchen.
  5. The linen closet.

Keep in mind this is a great time to downsize and declutter too.

Journaling

April Journal Prompts

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What is your favorite chocolate treat?

Do you have a bucket list?  What is on it?  What’s the one thing you want to do?

What is your favorite classic film?

What means the start of spring for you?

What is your favorite scent?  Vanilla? Pine? Water?

What is your favorite fruit? Veggie?

What do I worry about?

What is a typical evening at home?

What 3 things would you take to a deserted island?

Describe your favorite childhood Easter basket.

 

 

Self

5 Self Care Goals for April

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It’s been a crazy  year so far for me.  Illness and family issues have had me busy for a very long time. I have had a hard time taking care of everyone else much less myself.  I need to start taking better care of myself.  Of course, I’ve been trying to take better care of myself all the time.  I need to make some major changes but how will that happen?  Stay tuned.  Meanwhile, here are five things I am going to try this month.

  1. Take a walk.  Between family obligations, illness and weather I didn’t do any type of workout.  My dog is feeling this pain more acutely than I am. I need to get back to this.
  2. Stretch.  It’s a quiet and simple way to get moving and make yourself feel better.
  3. Read something silly or fun.  While gossip isn’t considered nice, we all need a little celebrity gossip from time to time. It’s fun to see and imagine how the other half lives.
  4. Light a candle.  I always did this when I came home from work.   It was a great way to signal it was time to relax.
  5. Make a bucket list.  Don’t put on things you think you should have on your list. Say read the 100 greatest books of all time unless you really want to.  Put your items in order.  Then write what you need to do to do the first three.

I hope this little post reminds you to take a few minutes each day to refresh and renew.  Be a little kinder and little more gentle with yourself.  Until next month.

Self

How Do You Find Your Purpose?

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I admit this question has always stumped me.   What is purpose anyway? According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary  purpose is to have something set up to be a goal or objective or an end to be obtained.  To me, when I have heard this topic discussed on television or radio is almost seems like a calling.  Something deep within the soul to be unmasked.

I have contemplated this idea a lot for the last several years. In my teens and twenties I had a mission, a very fixed idea of who I was, what I wanted and who I wanted to be.  I kept my head down and worked very hard.  I almost worked myself to death as only a young twenty something can do.  Then, life happened, and it was definitely not part of my plan. Recession and illness reared their ugly little heads.  I really got run down and was on the bottom of the barrel.  I decided that I just needed to rest and then get going again.  Little did I know it was not that easy.

I had issues, just like everyone else, getting back on my feet.  What I did do was get married, kept working and finally got pregnant and had a child.  Often while having many health problems.  In fact, today, I still have numerous health issues and so does my child.

So here I am at my mid-forties and I am looking at “retirement.” What to do? You read all these articles in the news about people in their “twilight” who reinvented themselves. Someone is sailing around the world, feeding the building schools in a typhoon ravaged nation, starting their own winery and more.  What If I don’t know what I want to do? I looked into getting more education, but it cost too much. Moving? Have to consult my husband.  So much I don’t know what I want or what path to even take.  The best advice I’ve had so far is to try everything if it interests you in the slightest.  I am still trying to figure this out.  Do you know what your purpose is?  Let me know about it.