It’s been a long time since I last updated you on what is going on in my life. It’s still rough. E finished his seventh grade year in public school. He could not get past only 15 minutes in a single math class. He has gone from the advanced group to the below average one. This is a kid who is extremely smart. Who had A’s and B’s before and now barely gets C’s. Since he’s not in class he doesn’t learn everything he needs to. So we’ve been paying for a tutor twice a week. It’s financially painful.
As school ended we met with his teacher and case manager to plan for the upcoming year. We made a list of things we wanted to improve for next year. I only hoped we could get it together by the end of 8th grade. If not, we were going to have problems. I was not only concerned about his anxiety but also his education and social development.
We were at this point taking him to an eating disorder clinic for ARFID twice a week. After several months of going the clinic told us that we didn’t need to come back. They didn’t feel Erik’s problems were the result of ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder) but more of a sensory issue. So we will have to try Occupational Therapy and Food Therapy in the future. I have a lead on some places to take him. I am going to hold off until we get his anxiety under control. It’s just too much. The anxiety and depression come first. They overwhelm everything.
In the summer E’s therapist has decided to not do talk therapy anymore and concentrate on his extreme social anxiety. They are going to do exposure therapy. She thinks if he can get a handle on his social anxiety his overall anxiety and depression will get better. I am glad she is willing to try something new. This doing “challenges” is what helped me to get over anxiety myself. Knowing that, my husband and I have kept him going places to prevent him from being agoraphobic.
His Psychiatrist says he doesn’t know what else to do for meds. He’s basically on it and at the max dose for a child. I still think it should be increased, but I don’t own the prescription pad. He sees his therapist weekly and his psychiatrist every two months.
We have been having E tutored twice a week during the summer. We found a tutor through Wyzant app and website. (No ad, that is just what I did.) I didn’t have the faintest clue how to find a tutor and this site is really helpful. He is tutored in Math and some English. Sometimes he had a good tutoring session other times its a disaster based on his anxiety. It’s hard for us as it’s a cost that we haven’t anticipated. I am also tutoring him in History and Life Science. I was hoping to be done by the end of summer but it may have to go into the new school year starting in September.
This summer we have also been looking for alternative schooling for E instead of the public schools. The public schools here are very good. Academically, we have no complaints. In dealing with them for my son’s illness and disabilities, there is a lot to be desired. Granted he is one kid among thousands in the district but this is what we pay our taxes for right? We figured that we would give him one more year to turn it around. He will be in 8th grade this year.
However, after the tour of one of the schools I felt really good about it. They have a lot of kids with severe anxiety attending. It was nice to not have to explain E’s situation every time. Someone “gets” it. We decided that he would benefit from attending immediately. Luckily there was a spot left for him. So we didn’t have to wait. We have been filling out paperwork and submitting lots of stuff. Finally, we found out that E was excepted to the new school. I know he will be nervous, but hopefully this is the thing we need.
The school never has anymore than 32 students. Depending on the year the total number fluctuates between 25 to 32. Each grade has 2-4 students. I know it will be rough. I hope this helps and he makes friends. The options that are left are not that great. If they are really options at all.
I will continue updating you on what else is going on in Part II.