How Do You Find Your Purpose?


I admit this question has always stumped me.   What is purpose anyway? According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary  purpose is to have something set up to be a goal or objective or an end to be obtained.  To me, when I have heard this topic discussed on television or radio is almost seems like a calling.  Something deep within the soul to be unmasked.

I have contemplated this idea a lot for the last several years. In my teens and twenties I had a mission, a very fixed idea of who I was, what I wanted and who I wanted to be.  I kept my head down and worked very hard.  I almost worked myself to death as only a young twenty something can do.  Then, life happened, and it was definitely not part of my plan. Recession and illness reared their ugly little heads.  I really got run down and was on the bottom of the barrel.  I decided that I just needed to rest and then get going again.  Little did I know it was not that easy.

I had issues, just like everyone else, getting back on my feet.  What I did do was get married, kept working and finally got pregnant and had a child.  Often while having many health problems.  In fact, today, I still have numerous health issues and so does my child.

So here I am at my mid-forties and I am looking at “retirement.” What to do? You read all these articles in the news about people in their “twilight” who reinvented themselves. Someone is sailing around the world, feeding the building schools in a typhoon ravaged nation, starting their own winery and more.  What If I don’t know what I want to do? I looked into getting more education, but it cost too much. Moving? Have to consult my husband.  So much I don’t know what I want or what path to even take.  The best advice I’ve had so far is to try everything if it interests you in the slightest.  I am still trying to figure this out.  Do you know what your purpose is?  Let me know about it.


10 Fashion Words to Know


Afternoon Dress: A term used to indicate type of dress suitable for a garden party or afternoon formal tea, includes a hat.

Bikini Chain: A belt of fine gold chain worn with bikini and hip exposing pants.  Origin in the 1960’s.

Bench Wig: Tightly curled wig with flaps that hang down over the ears.  Often seen worn by judges in Great Britain.

Betrothal Ring; A ring commonly used in the 16th century which was broken in half and each half given to the bride and the groom.

Go-Go Boots: A white boot that comes up to the calf on your leg.  Originally worn by Go-Go dancers.

Godet:  A triangular piece of fabric set into a skirt or sleeve to give fullness.

Gossamer: While it has multiple meanings it is most commonly used to refer to a veiling fabric made of silk.  Think of the phase “On gossamer wings.”

Herringbone: A pattern made of short slanting parallel lines adjacent to other rows that slant in the opposite direction.  Creates a V shape design.

Karat: Describes the quality of gold used in jewelry.  24K means gold with no alloys added, but often too soft for jewelry. Not to be confused with Carat which is used for weight of gemstones.

Legwarmers: Knitted leg covers which stretch from ankle to knee.  Was a huge fashion trends in the 80’s.

See you next month for more fashion terms!



5 Things to Declutter

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Since the 5 things to clean article is about spring cleaning, I am coordinating the clutter cleaning list too.  So we will start in the kitchen.  Here is this months list:

1. Unused Tea/Coffee/Sweeteners- excess water enhancers, that tea you only had one packet of two years ago. Get it gone!

2. Excess Spices.  Treat them just like the tea above.

3. Mugs and Glasses.  Do you really use your collection of world’s greatest mom mugs?

4. Unused Kitchen Gadgets.  Never used the bread maker from you wedding gifts you got more then 10 years ago?  Send it to the island of under-used kitchen products!

5. Anything chipped or cracked.

Okay, at this point I have reached my 5.  However, I still have a few decluttering points.

6. Get rid of excess serving pieces.

7. Tupperware or plastic storage items.

Happy decluttering.


5 Things To Clean


Spring is here.  So that means Spring Cleaning.  You always have to stay on top the dirt and grime.  Here are five things to give a really good deep clean to.  Take some time and get that grime!

  1. Clean the microwave and oven.  Give the inside a good clean for each.  Make sure to cover the outsides, range, and all the buttons, knobs, and filters.
  2. The dishwasher.  Wipe down the outside and sides of the door.  You can use vinegar to clean the dishwasher on a hot cycle.  The dishwasher is made to handle the acid of vinegar.  DO NOT use vinegar in the clothes washer.  It is all over blogging and some women’s magazines.  It will ruin your clothes washer.  It will rust out the drum.  The previous owner had done them and the result was the drum looked like Swiss cheese and collapsed.  I had to buy a new washer!
  3. Clean out your pantry.  Wipe it out and throw away all expired food.
  4. The Fridge.  Just like the pantry, wipe it out, remove the drawers to clean.  Toss out unused and expired food.
  5. Finally clean the sink, soap dish, sponges and underneath the sink.

Nest month I’ll add 5 more items to the deep clean Spring clean.


My Furry Alarm Clocks Part 2


You read all about my dog Boo.  Now learn about the latest edition to my family.  Our new rescue kitties “May” and “Winter.” The two of them are brothers.  They are from a litter of five cats and were the last two left.  We originally went to see May the black and white “tuxedo” cat.  On our way to the fosters basement she said there was another cat left too.  That they were brothers.  The minute she said that, I knew I was going home with two cats.

My son was with me.  So I asked him to pick a cat.  He looked at me and said “Mom, I can’t separate them, they’re brothers.” So I called my husband, and he said it was up to me.  I agreed and we took home two cats.  We had driven about an hour to get them.  I had originally sent out inquiries about 16+ cats up for adoption.  It was a range of kittens to adult cats.  I think we looked at four rescue groups total.  The only two cats were available, these two.  All the kittens needed to do was to fulfill one major requirement.  The cats must get along with dogs.

What I have found, however, is that in rescue speak “good with dogs” means they may have seen a dog.  Once. At a distance. In passing.

So the two kittens fitted into a single carrier together for the over 45 minute car ride home.  All the way May gave the most mournful wail.  Both tried to escape the carrier.  May was successful.  I had to drive with one hand and hold onto him with the other.  His brother, Winter the grey stripped cat, just sat in the carrier as still as possible.


Finally, we arrive home.  Our Australian Shepard ran to us and sniffed the newest members of the family.  Winter hissed at her.  Boo quickly ran away, she is scared of mean cats. So we took the two fur balls up to our guest bedroom where we had their litter box and food set up. Our family planned to introduce them (Boo and the cats) to each other.  The cats had a ton of toys and beds to choose from.

It took about a month for us to let the cats have the run of the house.  We moved the litter box to the basement.  Their food to the kitchen.  Then various toys and beds were relocated to the rest of the house.

The cats have made themselves at home.  May is pretty mellow, he likes to sleep on the couch, in the chair in my office and by my feet in bed.  In the morning when my husband wakes up he feeds them they run after him and meow to get their food.  They know when the dog barks they get fed too.  Copy cats.  May, our tuxedo, will run to where the dogs food is kept and meows.  Just in case we forget to feed the dog first.  He also meows when the dog is ready to come in from outside.  Just in case we miss her.  May loves Boo. Winter, our stripped cat, has also started to do this.  Which I find funny.  He’s the one that is always biting the dog.  Don’t worry, the dog doesn’t feel it. She just gives me this look of “why did you bring them here?”

Once we get to their food,  they start purring and rubbing up against your hands making it hard to dish up the food without spilling it.  Then May comes upstairs and meows next to the bed (if I go back to it or am still in it).  Once I acknowledge him, he hops up and curls up in my arms for tummy rubs. When he wants attention or food he always meows.

Winter also likes tummy rubs but has to be in the mood for them.  He has become my buddy lately.  Always wanting to be by me.  Winter likes to suck on fuzzy blankets and knead them.  I have read that cats who are taken from their moms too young do this.  I know that these guys were taken too young.  When I see Winter do this, I just pet him and tell him it’s okay.

Winter is our brave and curious one.  He is fascinated by everything and has to experience everything.  I finally understand the phrase “curiosity killed the cat” by having Winter.  He has jumped in the fridge while open.  In the washer, dryer, cabinets, bathtub and toilet.  We must always keep the toilet seat down in this house (I’m out numbered by men) as Winter thinks it’s a drinking fountain.  Cats!

Each has their own distinct personality and likes and dislikes.  May likes to carry around small things.  His favorite toy is a bottle cap.  The plastic ones on coke bottles.  He used to love these little plastic flower cat toys that the foster had.  I searched all over the internet to find them.  I bought a bunch but I think the bottle caps are easier to carry around.  Winter likes things that move.  Especially if those things have feathers.  I can’t tell you how many of those wand toys he has destroyed. I have to hid my hair twist ties as both kitties are obsessed with them.  They have to carry them and chew on them.  The have also destroyed all my husbands shoe laces.

Thankfully all pets get along fairly well.  Each was a rescue pet.  I think they really know that this is their forever home.

*Thank you all for waiting for me to return to blogging.  As you know by my updates, life has taken an awful turn. I plan, but some things are more important than the blog.  I still enjoy doing this and hope to continue. Thanks for reading!


March Journaling Prompts


1. Write about a place you have never visited and why.

2. Are you an introvert or extrovert?  Do you ever wish you were the opposite? Why?

3. What is your Myers-Briggs type?  What are the main characteristics of the type?

4. How do you show love?

5. What is your favorite quote?

6. Are you organized or messy? Why?

7. What’s the best compliment you ever got?

8. Design a water tracker for your journal.  Keep track of your water intake this month.

9. Do an exercise log for a month.  What new things should you try?

10. Write a life timeline.  What are your most important milestones?  Why are they important?

Happy Writing!!