It’s time to revisit manners for kids again! Here is April’s list of manners to know.
1. How to lose graciously. This idea for manners has really taken a beating lately hasn’t it? Winning has become everything. The only thing. I get it. We all want to be winners. It feels so good to win. To win with grace? That takes it to a whole different level. It’s okay to be proud, happy just not boastful and mean to others.
2. Interrupting. My son still does this. To be honest, I do it too. It’s always tough when you are chomping at the bit to tell somebody something. The art of conversation is a lost art. Keep fighting the good fight by giving great examples to your child. Include them in the conversation with adults. It will take time, but it will be worth it later.
3. How to Introduce Someone. It sounds easy, but for children it can be scary. A basic lesson on introductions can be in order. Something along the lines of “Bob, this is Mary, Mary this is my friend Bob” can go a long way.
4. Burping. What kid doesn’t like a good burp? Instead of encouraging the burping contest, how do you teach them to act when it accidentally happens? First, handle it like an adult. Don’t laugh, but don’t get upset. Ask them to say excuse me loud enough so the whole table can hear. Later down the line, you can teach them not to do it out loud by closing their mouth.
5. How to leave a message. In the era of the text and the email, the idea of leaving a message seems outdated. We still need to leave messages don’t we? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to listen to a message someone from a company or office has left me. There are only a few things that need to be included in a great phone message. One is your full name. You may think you friend only knows one Monica but you would be surprised. Second is your return phone number. Don’t assume someone has it. It may not be handy. Third is what you message is about. Keep it short and sweet ,”Hi. It’s Jane Smith, my number is 555-5555, I’m calling about our meeting time tomorrow. I want to confirm it’s at 2 p.m.. Please call to confirm this.” Fourth is already shown in the previous quote. It’s an action. What do you want the person to do? Should they call you back? Wait for you to call again? Watch for a letter? Let them know. Finally, short goodbye or thank you lets the person know your message is over.
In addition to the message, you always want to make sure that you speak in a clear and even tempo. Trying to go fast will only frustrate the listener and maybe not result in the action you were hoping for. If they can’t understand you, they can’t act upon your message.